In cultures where dating or courtship is acceptable, dating can help youth develop friendships and eventually find an eternal companion.
Youth in the Church are taught to wait until at least age 16 to begin dating and to date only those who have high moral standards.
However, this type of admirer could overcome his shyness and naivety by asking for the help of a "tulay" (Filipino for "Bridge", whose role is similar to that of the Wingman in Western Cultures), typically a mutual friend of both the suitor and the admired, or a close friend of both families.Through this "human-bridge", the bachelor can also ask permission to visit the woman at home from the bachelorette's father.As a norm, the couple will not be left alone with each other during this first home visit, because formal introductions to family members are done, which may be performed by the "tulay". During this preliminary evaluation period, the Filipino woman will either deny her feelings (or the absence of feelings for the suitor) and avoids her admirer, or does not become angry because of the teasing and encourages the suitor instead.The suitor stops the courtship if he is quite sure that the woman does not reciprocate.Traditionally, some courtship may last a number of years before the Filipino woman accepts her suitor as a boyfriend.
Conservativeness, together with repressing emotions and affection, was inherited by the Filipino woman from the colonial period under the Spaniards, a characteristic referred to as the Maria Clara attitude.Do things that will help you and your companions maintain your self-respect and remain close to the Spirit of the Lord” (“Dating,” 24–25).Although having a series of friendly dates is the normal starting point in the Filipino way of courting, this may also begin through the process of "teasing", a process of "pairing off" a potential teenage or adult couple.This teasing phase actually helps in circumventing such an embarrassing predicament because formal courtship has not yet officially started.Furthermore, this "testing phase" also helps a man who could be "torpe", a Filipino term for a suitor who is shy, "stupid", and feels cowardly, and is innocent and naïve in how to court a woman.Avoid going on frequent dates with the same person. You may want to invite your dates to activities with your family.